Tuesday, September 10, 2013

Blogtember: Better Late than Never

Describe a distinct moment when your life took a turn.

I was once in an incredibly abusive relationship. My ex was abusive to me both physically and verbally. The day that I left him for good is the day that my life took a distinctive turn, and it was all thanks to Dave. 

Dave and I have been friends since high school and we both had mini crushes on each other in school but never acted upon them because I had a boyfriend, the ex that I mentioned before. When we graduated, Dave and I kept in touch. Not a whole lot but when we ran into each other we always made it a point to catch up. During this time I was on and off with my ex. I don't know why I kept going back, and I don't think I'll ever truly understand why, but I did. If I had to speculate I think it was because he had me convinced that no one would ever love me and I feared being alone more than anything else. 

Dave's senior picture...He made it so easy to crush on :)
About a month after I turned 21, Dave offered to take me out for my birthday. I'm not a super social person, I never had a big 21 bash. When he offered to take me to a bar, which was something I had not done before, I took him up on it. We hung out and chatted up the whole night. A few beers and shots in, I confessed that I was miserable but that I couldn't leave my ex because then I'd be all alone (I know guys it's a crappy reason to stay).

Dave is a very reserved guy, he isn't overly emotional or expressive. But when I blurted out my miseries, he slammed his glass down and said "That's not true, you're a huge catch, anyone would want you, and I have a confession to make: I've always liked you. I liked you in high school and I like you now." I sniffled "Really?" and then my whole world changed. The next day I packed up the few items my ex had in my place at the time (we had separate apartments) and kicked him out. 

I was terrified, but I figured that anything could be better than what I was dealing with. Dave ended up being the close-to-perfect-as-perfect-gets man. He was everything I prayed to God for when I would cry myself to sleep at night. It was the best decision I ever made in my life. There will literally be no other decision I could possibly make in my life that will top that moment. 

And that's the moment that my life took a turn. What about you? When did you have a life changing moment?


  1. I had a pretty similar experience of having to make the really difficult decision to leave a borderline abusive relationship. At the time, it seemed absolutely impossible. So many wonderful things came out of that break-up, though, and for that I will always be thankful. Thank you for sharing your story and being open and honest!

  2. Wow, this is a HUGE life-changing moment! So glad you found the right guy and had the courage to get rid of the wrong one! Sounds like things are much better for you now, and you totally deserve someone who will love and appreciate you.

  3. I'm at work right now, and I got misty-eyed. My heart literally broke for you, but I'm glad Dave helped you see the light. He sounds like a terrific guy! :)

  4. Dave is a wonderful guy, and I'm so glad you found eachother!


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